Me: 24, female, submissive
An open dialogue with my dominant partner, describing things I want to try, things we have tried, and thoughts that come up during the BDSM learning process.
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Stockroom Kink Month - Bondage Basics - How To Tie A Single Rope Cuff With Ring
We’re starting National Kink Month with an easy rope bondage tutorial that lets you attach a person’s wrist or ankle to a bed post, the arm of a chair, or any other piece of furniture your naughty heart desires. For more detailed instructions visit our blog.
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Days 12-15
Day 12: Tell us about a humorous BDSM/kink experience you’ve had. If you haven’t had one, talk about aspects of kink/BDSM you find funny.
Ball gags. They seem so inconvenient to either person, and are aesthetically unappealing/look ridiculous. I find other gags (mouth bits, for instance) to be much more suited.
Seeing any BDSM scene involving a ball gag instantly evokes the mental image of a clown nose or a pig with an apple in its mouth— and if you’re into that, then go for it! By all means. But my partner and I are both not.
Day 13: Explain as best you can what the appeal of kink/BDSM is to you? Why are you drawn to what you’re drawn to?
BDSM is a departure from vanilla, normative sex. This is a distinction many people are unable to grasp.
At first glance, it seems to be a reinforcement of patriarchal sex and gender roles (or in the case of male subs/female Dommes, a gender reversed parody of this). There is a huge separation however, stemming from the sheer amount of discussion and consent involved in BDSM and kink relationship styles. That kind of emotional investment is not found in many vanilla relationships, simply because those people have often not taken the time to even question their sex lives. They are choose to ignore the fact that social constraints/oppression can easily creep into the bedroom or, worse, are ignorant of it.
For this reason, I find BDSM extremely liberating and comfortable.
Day 14: How would you say real life BDSM/kink varies from fantasy BDSM/kink? If you haven’t experienced real life BDSM/kink how do you think it might differ?
The biggest realisation that most people seem to have is that, like in any relationship, life gets in the way. Sometimes there’s bills to be paid or you simply have to go to sleep for work in the morning and not play out your wildest sexual fantasies.
That’s frustrating in BDSM, as in any other type of sexual relationship.
It’s complicated further in TPE and 24/7 type relationships, but it’s nothing that conversation can’t help. And I think if you can find ways to work around busy schedules (sexting, leaving notes/orders around the house, having daily rituals) then it’s actually really helpful and can result in a very strong relationship.
Day 15: Post a BDSM/kink activity you’re curious about and would like to try.
I haven’t ever been bound with an anal hook, and it’s on my private amazon wishlist. I’m not sure what order my partner is planning to purchase the gear that’s on there, so it may be a while :\
But I’m looking forward to that one a great deal.